I wrote about the trending adult diaper situation in Japan a few weeks ago which I thought was an odd Japanese anomaly, but in researching the situation I learned that the adult diaper fetish is all the rage everywhere.
First we started to notice we were getting quite a bit of referral traffic from an amazing french website called www.abkingdom.com (the site is in and of itself a mega-situation), and I was taken aback by the seriousness with which DL’s took their fetish. I certainly did not mean to offend anyone by labeling it a “situation”, but quite honestly I just did not understand what was going on. I needed an education in this enigmatic affair.
Clearly, in Japan woman were wearing diapers, not because they were incontinent but because they enjoyed it and were even aroused by it. Japan even had adult diaper fashion shows for diaper fetishists.
But it looks like Japan is not the only country to embrace this new fad. There are diaper forums everywhere.
There are diaper lover dating sites. There are diaper chat sites. There are even diaper fetish communities within religious communities. (Here is one for Mormons).
Luckily the fetish has nothing to do with pedophilia. Being forced to wear diapers is a form of humiliation and sexual masochism for some. (Obviously there is a power dynamic happening and experts say sexual attraction is about a power inequality).
Apparently the term for these individuals is Diaper Lover. And it doesn’t mean the individual wants to be treated like an infant (although something deeply subconscious must be going on here), but merely that they get sexual gratification out of wearing a diaper.
For some it’s the simple feeling of comfort. For others they enjoy the feeling and crinkling sounds associated with it. Any way around it, it is amazing that this is happening in such mass and that it is a growing situation.
Some DLs will only wear their diapers for limited amounts of time, while others prefer to wear them 24-hours a day, seven-days a week.
In Japan it appeared that the humiliation of public urination gave users a rush. The idea of being in public and people potentially noticing the diaper is a high for DL’s. I suppose it’s the fear of getting caught or ridiculed by others that provides such an adrenaline filled experience to the user.
I used to work downtown in San Diego and there was a guy we called “diaper man”. He was very wealthy and accomplished, but he liked walking around in a diaper and a white T-shirt (no pants). It always perplexed me why anyone would so blatantly and intentionally humiliate them self, but it is starting to make more sense.
So what is going on in our world that everyone just seems to want to strap on a diaper? Why the collective embrace of total submission and public humiliation? Has everyone just had enough?
We recently received an email from a DL (in France so her english is a tad rough) and I wanted to share an excerpt from it because it is quite enlightening into the mindset of individuals who enjoy the fetish.
“I’m a french girl, I’m 22 years old and I like wearing diapers. There are much more men than women with this fetichism, you can easily notice it by consulting websites.
I’m not sure about where it comes from, but I started to be fascinated by diapers when I was around 5 or 6. I was a very shy and anxious child, my mother was depressed and sometimes a bit violent, but many diaper lovers say they had a happy childhood, even if some of them suffered from abuses. Many AB or DL were enure tic, but I was not. I have a borderline personality disorder but I want to insist on the fact that a large majority of ABDL has NO psychiatric problem…and, of course, many borderlines are not diaper lovers.
When I became a teenager, my attraction to diapers began to be linked to my sexuality, I was worried and it was very difficult for me to accept it. I tried to forget this idea but I never really could and I often thought I was crazy.
I really started wearing diapers (again) when I was 19 years old. I like feeling like a baby and the feeling of humiliation, I also like submission, …. But sometimes it is just a way to relax when I’m anxious, I feel protected, it’s soft and warm.
I’m just a normal person, with a strange fetishism.”
If you have an adult diaper story you would like to share with us or if you can explain the draw of wearing a diaper, please send us an email firstname.lastname@example.org and we will publish it to enlighten everyone about this situation.