Season 4 of The Bachelor Australia produced a first for Bachelor Nation, the first lesbian couple. Yep! You knew it was bound to happen. All of that wine, the tears, the good lighting, the emotional intimacy, the-out-fit sharing, the bed-sharing. I’m just shocked it took this long.
Anyhow it was Tiffany Scanlon and Megan Marx that found love with each other. Of course the couple were accused of staging the relationship for attention, but it was, in fact, very real.
Sadly it ended and Tiffany is now single and ready to jump back in the Bachelor Nation ring on Bachelor Winter Games, but no doubt the major situation will be discussed when the show airs next month.
The 30-year-old Training Administrator from Perth, South Australia decided to open up about the painful break-up on her blog after getting barraged with questions and accusations in the media. So here are a few excerpts of what happened and my take.
“I was a contestant on The Bachelor Australia in 2016 where I met and eventually fell in love with another female contestant from the show. While that story is an amazing one and maybe I will share it one day; this story is about how it all came crumbling down.”
“In October 2016, literally overnight, my relationship became the interest of media outlets worldwide. …..At the time, I had been dating my ex for around 4 months having moved to her home town of Geraldton, where we had been able to establish a relationship outside of the spotlight. ….We made the decision (mistake) at that point to share our relationship with the public mostly via our Instagram accounts. This, I believe, would eventually cost us our relationship.”
“I couldn’t say exactly when things started to unravel, maybe around Christmas/New Year. We were going to a tonne of events and I was finding it more and more difficult to enjoy myself now that we were more recognisable to the public. Strangers grabbing at us for pictures, not even introducing themselves or talking to us, men asking for threesomes, people accusing us of faking our relationship. ….We also had the added pressure of an impending relocation to Bali where we would be living together for the first time and I felt myself struggling to keep it all together…”
Well, I’d say an impending move to Bali would sink any relationship. Tiffany also shared that she had been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and that played a role in the disintegration of things.
“When that stress is unrelenting and my anxiety builds, I start to lose my grip and this can lead to a very fast downward spiral. This is exactly what happened to me about 2 months ago.”
“I was due to fly out to Bali. I had my bags packed, ticket booked, passport ready. I had been excited. But as the date approached I felt more and more unsettled. I became so anxious I was physically ill. I couldn’t hold down food, couldn’t focus on anything, cried a lot, slept a lot, took a lot of valium. Crying hysterically I could not get myself into the car to go to the airport so I postponed my flight. ….some serious mental regrouping and support from loved ones, I was able to head to Bali a few days later.”
So Tiffany and Meghan did make it to Bali together where the couple made the BIG mistake of deciding to go in to business together—starting a panty line, naturally, and a reality show.
“With the focus being more and more on business, our relationship became secondary and we spent more and more time doing things separately. ….It’s hard to know how to help someone who is having severe anxiety and/or depression.”
The pressure, she claims left her bed-ridden. And making things worse, accusations that the two were faking their relationship for attention was the straw that broke the camels back and they decided to end things amicably.
“Ending things then rather than waiting until they fell apart means that we have the chance of one day getting back the amazing friendship that we once had after some time and space allow us both to heal and find our selves again.”
I may be reading in to things, but it sounds like Tiffany may be holding out hope for a reconciliation.
My take is that these two ladies simply bit off more than they could chew. This sounds like it was a recipe for disaster.
1: making it so public, 2: Going in to business together, 3: deciding to do a reality spin-off, 4: moving to a small island where neither of you had any roots!
Any one of these things would have sunk a straight relationship, but together!!! Good grief girls. Settle down. No wonder you were having panic attacks. I’d question more the possibility that you intentionally sabotaged this relationship Tiff, and why?
Anyhoo, Scanlon will appear on the small screen next month on Bachelor Winter Games where she will have another chance at finding love with a handsome young man or a bi-curious female.
Bachelor Winter Games Premiers Feb. 13 on ABC