Time for the Enneagram personality breakdown of 33-year-old Bachelor and Iowa Farmer Chris Soules. I refer to Understanding the Enneagram: The Practical Guide to Personality Types (revised edition) by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson as a reference.
Chris, like Bachelor Sean Lowe is a 6: The Loyalist–which is part of what makes him so likeable and such a good lead.
His impressive dedication and loyalty to the process of finding a partner in 9 weeks on a reality show is very endearing. And this type would be great to work with as well since they are really looking to please the team. That said they have a REALLY tough time making decisions and developing internal resources to guide them.
In short 6s are VERY committed, reliable, hard-working, humble, responsible, and trustworthy people. ABC claims that Chris has been the ‘nicest’ Bachelor they have ever had and he certainly seems ‘nice’ to his crop of ladies.
They also value tradition and family. They crave security. Owning a giant piece of land would help ground a 6. They would also like the idea that they were contributing to growing a food supply for people. The 6 would also not be afraid of making a lifetime commitment to someone.
Here is what the enneagraminstitute.org says:
At their Best: “internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.”
But at their worst: “they can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion.”
- Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance
- Basic Desire: To have security and support
Key Motivations: “Want to have security, to feel supported by others, to have certitude and reassurance, to test the attitudes of others toward them, to fight against anxiety and insecurity.”
Throughout the season we have seen Chris insecurities emerge more than any other contestant. He is really insecure about his tiny 400 person Hometown and is worried the women will not be able to handle it and rightfully so.
He also appears to be a dream for producers–following their instructions and suggestions to a tee unlike Juan Pablo–enneagram 3!
Sixes make excellent friends and ‘partners’. They are solid and loyal to their friends and beliefs. But they can be jealous and have problems with anger and autonomy. They are also easily led astray because of their loyalty if they are not careful.
“When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), dutiful Sixes suddenly become competitive and arrogant at Three. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), fearful, pessimistic Sixes become more relaxed and optimistic, like healthy Nine.”
Sixes are terrified of abandonment and being left without support because they do not have confidence in their own minds and judgments. So they often look to authority figures, beliefs, and supports outside themselves for guidance to survive. I think Chris would make an excellent and loyal husband as long as he is true to himself and develops a strong internal guidance system.