So I just gone done saying that Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe was giving me a little Borderline Personality Disorder vibe and I learn that not only was there the pre Fantasy Suite sex indiscretion, but just 3 weeks prior to filming The Bachelorette during the Women Tell All after party on Chris Soules’ season, Kaitlyn Bristowe was making out with Zack Kalter! the 30-year-old Children’s Book Author from Newport Beach, CA, from Desiree’s season!
Now why was she making out with this guy in front of producers knowing that in 3 weeks she was going to meet her selection of life-partners carefully chosen for her? She knows the rules. Producers want you totally unattached to anyone when you meet your suitors, not pining for a guy you met at a party 3 weeks prior.
I don’t have an issue with Kaitlyn being a free spirit and making out or sleeping with guys, I just have concerns that she may have some deeper issues and may not be able to make a sustainable connection with any of these guys.
BPDs like to turn it on and turn it off very abruptly. I suspect there are a slew of young guys lying around who had their hearts broken by Kaitlyn and who are trying to figure out what in the world they did wrong–like Trevor Partlo for instance!
Borderline’s exhibit a pattern of marked impulsivity and instability which I think I see in Kaitlyn.
I will tell you how I arrived at BPD:
1: I felt she was acting during Soules’ season and was angling for The Bachelorette not Soules’ heart.
2: The report that she was dating Partlo during Soules season and told him it was all an act and that she was manipulative and just wanted attention.
3: Her tattoos. BPDs often permanently mark their bodies with tattoos or they are cutters.
4: The previews showing she slept with someone earlier than usual (not a big deal in and of itself but part of a larger pattern of impulsivity which gives BPDs immediate relief from their emotional pain).
5: The previews showing her intense emotional reaction to sleeping with someone. Again this should not have been ‘the end of the world’. Why did she feel this way? BPDs have deep concerns about abandonment and shame and guilt after they have acted impulsively.
I know I will be criticized for even suggesting BPD, but you have to remember guys can be victims too. BPDs like to hit and run and leave a lot of carnage of broken hearts in their wake. I think this may be why we saw so many guys crying and walking off on the preview. I suspect they feel seriously duped as victims of BPDs often do.
Those diagnosed with BPD aren’t bad people and are victims themselves. They are a product of abandonment, unstable environment and trauma. More suicides come from BPD clients than any other diagnosis because they suffer so much internal pain of “feeling” like they are a bad person. To say you were a victim is a joke because if you ever truly loved someone incapable of trusting and understanding love due to their unstable past you would assist with treatment and encourage DBT, etc. instead of posting negativity about mental illness and calling yourself a victim. You have no idea what it means to suffer like they do everyday. Your reasoning is not clinical by any stand point and lastly Kaitlyn had and has a stable home family life and makes that very public. If she were a man displaying the same behaviors this would not be an issue. They all made out with her and gossiped after and had positive things to say in the follow up…you are bored, lacking facts and ignorant.
This is a pitiful article. In so many ways. Making light of a mental health issue for a crappy/wrong article? Then replying to people’s valid responses with “bpds are dangerous” how about lets not generalize a broad disorder! And then insinuating tattoos are basically the same as cutting one’s self. Your reasonings are paper thin.
I don’t think Kaitlyn went in the show to find a husband (most on these shows aren’t) and she’s definitely a ball of emotions, but does this mean she has BPD-I don’t think so.
Amen. September is suicide awareness month and it’s ignorance like this article that causes those that suffer to give up. Heartless post!
Christine you are not a psychologist and it’s unethical to try to diagnose someone you’ve never treated, even if you are. This whole blog entry is libelous.
Its not unethical or libelous to make a simple observation about a very public figure. Her behavior is a bit unusual and actually abusive.
Its interesting how people forget that men can be victims too.
The BPD traits are compelling… some characteristics do match and explain her odd expressions, The Harvard guy may have been cocky but he was on target. She takes the fun out of the show..and whats with the morbid scenarios–caskets, jails, fights,putting guys in competitive, ridiculous situations masked as fun– One disturbed person, albeit well spoken, who gravitated towards the equally disturbed Nick. She couldnt pick a normal guy…so those who weren’t picked are actually the gems.
I COMPLETELY agree with you to some degree. I have been watching this show devotedly every week. I also did the same with the Bachelor when Chris and Kaitlyn were both on it. Kaitlyn came across to me as this sweet, down to earth, woman who had her stuff together. I even routed for her to become the Bachelorette and all I can say is there is SOMETHING definitely wrong with her. I can’t quite put my finger on it but she is not all the way there and perhaps, crazy? Ian had it right, just like ALL the other guys that walked off of Kaitlyn’s season. It is not them it is HER. She is sleeping with everyone, she is not interested in having a serious relationship or a husband. I don’t think she is genuine at all. I am thinking about throwing in the towel watching but I do like a lot of the guys on the show and Ian was one of my favorites. Sure, he came across as cocky and arrogant, but he had every right and I’m glad he trashed her because look at what she is doing? So many men refuse to stick up to her because they want to continue on the show and don’t want to lose out on their 15 min of fame. But she is not a catch, she is not something anyone should be pawning over. If you are serious about finding a husband you don’t act like a whore on NATIONAL television. I hope more men walk off the show like all the others. She will end up alone with that kind of behavior and I’m not surprised why she has been single all this time anymore.
I can assume from #3 of your “BPD” issuance list that you:
1. Are an extreme religious person, but are comfortable writing about celebrities and Internet
2. You have no clue what you’re talking about because you just associated “tattoos” and cutting oneself as the same thing
3. You’re a horrible human being that should not be allowed to influence others
4. You probably think people with a different skin color are prone to BPD
5. You have BPD
6. All of the above.
Please remove yourself from the interweb.
I have just seen multiple friends and family members get obliterated by people w/ BPD. Its a scary thing. BPDs leave a lot of victims in their path. I just made an observation, that’s it. I cant imagine Kaitlyn is going to lose sleep over my observation of her behavior. But I stand by the fact that something is off and it worries me for the guys who get in to relationships w/ her.
when you have friends or family members who have been placed under citizens arrest by a BPD on a smear campaign and they have done absolutely nothing you may feel differently.
BPDs are dangerous. Men can be victims too remember.