Simone from Sacramento submitted a situation to us today.
Question: Is it appropriate for a married guy to slap my ass when I am picking up toys in his house??
C Lo says: So my initial response is: it depends. Does the couple have an open relationship and do you have an open relationship? If the answer to either question is “no” then it may be a problem. Now I am empathetic to someone with an impulse control moment (maybe from being surrounded by people with impuse control problems) so I would inititally let him have the first one for free and see if it happens again. If it continues to happen or if there are other inappropriate things that occurred then it may be a situation and time to bring in your husband for back-up. Keep us posted on the situation Simone!
Penny Farthing says: I can somewhat relate as in I received an unsoliticed “v-tick” at Burning Man (aka an unsoliticed vagina tickle). I was preparing to sit down next to one of my campmates at Burning Man and he decided to be funny and grab my ass as I sat down, but, unbeknownst to him but very “knownst” to me….he actually grabbed my vagina. And, let me say, I WAS NOT OK WITH THIS. And I gave him crap for the rest of the week at Burning Man for it. I wouldn’t have been OK with it regardless, but I was especially not OK with it because I was engaged and felt like it was therefore even worse. I know guys may think it’s OK and just all in good fun, but I say: NO WAY, NOT OK!!
Sa Ha says: Okay, what kind of toys is Simone from Sacto picking up and why?!? These are very important aspects to sussing out the situation. For instance, if they are sex toys she is picking up because they fell off the bed while they were on the ride of their lives, I’m thinking the ass slap is a great way to end the party! On the other hand, if she is his cleaning person, it’s time to sweetly say “I love that you consider me such a buddy, thats really sweet. but I dont go around high five’ing your hand with my ass, so please dont be high five’ng my ass with your hand – yo!”