The biggest situation on Tuesday night’s season premier of The Bachelorette was the preview…..the shocking preview showed 30-year-old Kaitlyn Bristowe sitting down with her Bachelor suitors and telling them that she had sex with one of the contestants–cut to video of the outside of a hotel room and audio of the Bachelorette having sex with a guy–cut to Kaitlyn crying and talking about how “sex” is part of finding a future life-partner.
So needless to say social media went crazy with people speculating and ‘slut-shaming’ the Vancouver dance instructor. She sat down with ETonline‘s Nancy O’Dell on Wednesday to say that she’s “not ashamed” of her sex-capades being caught on camera.
“I don’t think that’s a crazy thing to sleep with somebody when you’re trying to be in a relationship with them,” ……. “I’m a 30-year-old woman and I make my own decisions and intimacy to me is a part of every relationship and I don’t know why everyone is so shocked by it. It’s 2015.”
“I’m an in-the-moment kind of person,” she continued. “I tried to compartmentalize each relationship and be present with each guy, and some went faster than others and some went slower than others.”
And then O’Dell gets to the heart of the matter — the timing….because it’s all about “when” she slept with the guy. Bristowe admitted the indiscretion occurred “somewhere after the second date but before the fifth”.
“I’m not ashamed of it — I just regret the timing. But I’m also not afraid to talk about it,” she said. “I don’t really have a problem talking about that kind of thing. I think when you’re looking for a lifetime partnership, intimacy is obviously a part of that. I think maybe I’m just the first Bachelor or Bachelorette to talk about that on TV.”
Here’s the thing, this is not unprecedented. Contestants have had sex with the lead prior to Fantasy Suites before. What is unprecedented is the hot mic!!! Kaitlyn obviously did not realize that she was all mic-ed up when the situation happened.
Would she have confessed to the indiscretion if it had not been captured on film? No way….no way. She would have just gone along to the end never uttering a word and no one would have been the wiser like contestants have done in the past.
In my opinion, the reason Kaitlyn is crying is because she is mortified. She is likely consumed with how this will make her look on camera. I seriously doubt she would have had such a meltdown if the whole thing wasn’t on tape. Because she is right, she needs to know if she has sexual chemistry with the guys and there is nothing wrong with that, but unfortunately this “process” doesn’t really afford the lead the ability to go all the way with one person while still dating a dozen or more.
I suspect there is much more to this story and the reaction of the guys has more to do with “who” she had sex with and them feeling lied to.
In regards to whether or not there would be less backlash from the fans if Bristowe were the Bachelor instead of the Bachelorette? “I think he’d still take some heat for it, but maybe just not as much,” ….. “It’s probably a little worse because I’m a lady.”
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The Bachelorette airs Mondays at 8 p.m. on ABC.
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