Jillian was one of the most professional Bachelorette’s in Bachelor/ette history. She possessed enormous charisma and compassion much like Trista Sutter. Jillian gave us Ed, Reid, Stagliano, Dave Good….a lot of our faves. So for those of you Bachelor Pad 3 viewers that are curious about what went wrong between former Bachelorette Jillian Harris and Ed Swiderski, we uncovered this info on Jillian’s website.
‘Do you have any advice for women in a relationship (or married) based on what you’ve learned from your break up with Ed and why it didn’t work out?’ –Judy
Jillian: “…I think everyone knows that Ed and I have tried very hard to remain friends but rest assured this has not been easy. Our situation was very different than most of you, as we were stuck right in the middle of a storm we had no experience with and we really let it mess with us.
For us (as with many breakups I’m sure) there were many reasons why it didn’t work. We spent every waking moment with each other for a year, and as much fun as we had, after a year we were both pretty overwhelmed and ‘over’ the whole situation. We didn’t have any breathing room in the relationship, which is really important. Overall though, I would say that the experience of being engaged so quickly and publicly was the biggest factor in our breakup. People say we couldn’t actually have been in love, and I don’t think that was the case – our hearts were in love but we didn’t give ourselves enough time to ease into the relationship. So ladies and gentlemen no matter how crazy you are about someone take your damn time!
Certainly the attention didn’t help us much either. I admit all the attention random girls gave Ed was hard on me. He loved the attention and that isn’t easy on a relationship that is supposed to be so serious, yet is still so fresh. The more insecure and upset I became, the more he loved the attention and it became a really slippery slope. I lost trust in him and in the end we both really lost interest in making it work. Was it avoidable? Who knows, but I am a firm believer that what’s meant to be will be.”