Caila Quinn aka “sex panda” landed a coveted second 1 on 1 in the Bahamas indicating she was a clear frontrunner, but I’m not totally sure Caila wanted to be the frontrunner. Actually, let me clarify. I think Caila is like Kaitlyn Bristowe on Soules season….she doesn’t want to be number 1 girl she is angling for the number 3 spot, because her convo with Ben on Monday night was so cryptic and bizarre
After sensitive Ben confides in Caila that he is looking for a girl he can “cry” with, Caila confesses,
“I dont know if im a 100% ready to cry on your shoulder.”
Caila is clearly scaring Ben because she doesn’t seem that vulnerable and Ben has been hurt by the pretty girl before. In fact I suspect that Caila reminds him a bit of his ex girlfriend Shaelin in that both are “Performers”. Both have that dangerous charm and charisma on top of their model good looks. And both seem a bit fickle about getting too tied down.
But then Caila says, “I feel like I love you, but I dont know why I cant share…maybe its just that im not ready.”
I translated that to mean…”I’m not totally in to you, but I can’t really fake it that well and I love being on camera and I’d like to take this 15 minutes and run it into at least an hour of fame. So lets keep things ambiguous so I can be the number 3 girl like Kaitlyn”.
Caila at the tender age of 23 is obviously used to having men wrapped around her finger and knows how to work them. She says “My greatest fear is that I can’t totally and completely fall in love with somebody” (aka I am not that in to you)…”my greatest fear would be breaking your heart” (aka I am going to break your heart).
Poor Ben. She is going to crush him.
Ben said this in his People blog,
“I knew that asking Caila on a second one-on-one would cause some controversy. But I felt that it was something I needed to do. Caila had caught my eye and my attention from the very beginning – I mean from the moment she jumped in my arms out of the limo really. But our first date, as fun as it was, really didn’t allow us to get to know each other. And for the chemistry that we had together, it still seemed too surface-level to be getting this close to hometown dates.”
In other words Ben is really in to Caila, and worried that she is not so in to him. Keep in mind she had also just dumped a boyfriend like 2 months earlier in July. Maybe she is having second thoughts? Nah, probably not. She is just all about #3 because we all know what #3 means on The Bachelor!—-The Bachelorette!
Ben continues,
“If last week in Mexico taught me anything it was that I could not afford to waste time and keep women that I just liked. I did not come on The Bachelor to just find a great girl that I’ll date for a while. I really came her to find a future wife. So this date needed to happen. I needed answers when it came to Caila.”
I love how seriously Ben takes his role as Bachelor. He is REALLY looking for a future wife while most of these women are looking for a permanent gig on ABC “looking for love”. And he does have to chop chop because this is only a 9-week journey and he has already wasted enough time with Olivia. He has got to get down to brass tax.
Ben understandably “was so confused” by Caila’s cryptic words. He goes on to say, “and I wasn’t lying when I said there was a point in that conversation where I was pretty positive that Caila was breaking up with me.”
I thought she was breaking up with you too! And sweet sweet Ben…he does not read sub-text and I am guessing this was the problem in his last relationship. So he takes Caila at face value and decides that she does actually “love” him.
So Ben keeps her which is great news for us because I want to see her Hometown since her family is loaded!
Ben continues “as confused as I was, the more we talked the more I realized that there was so much more to Caila than I had originally thought. This was a woman with real depth of thought. A woman that would challenge me. And what was almost more important than any of that was that – as much as I still didn’t understand exactly what Caila was hiding behind that perfect smile – I was 100 percent sure that I wanted to take the time to find out……So while I walked away still unsure of whether or not Caila was my future wife, I was absolutely sure that I wanted to take the time to find out.”
Awwwww, just the fact that he refers to her as his “future wife”! This is going to be an epic yet inevitable break up to watch.
Sex PANTHER, I believe she was referred to by Ben, not panda.
I know. Its an ongoing joke between me and myself because I swore Ben called her a “sex panda” and the term had me giggling all night until the next day when I realized it was “sex panther”. So Im going to keep “sex panda”.